Quarter-Life Crisis..
As a Response to my earlier post, titled “the wheel”, i have received(from my friend sarah) a marvelous article written by ‘Ms. Krithika’. In a nutshell, i had talked about the transitional phase of our lives, its anxieties & its flavors, its fears & its consequences, its preconceptions & its misconceptions, all of which has been beautifully put together and explained in this article titled “Quater Life Crisis“. learn more about the same, read on..
“Being Twenty-Something: Psychologists call it the “Quarter-life Crisis..” It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that you didn’t know and may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now. You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren’t exactly the greatest people you have ever met and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. You realize that you had expected too much from others & now you are afraid that even you haven’t come up to the expectations of others. Maybe what you don’t recognize is that they are realizing that too and aren’t really cold, catty, mean or insincere but that they are as confused as you.
You look at your job… and it is most probably not what you thought you would be doing… Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn’t. What isn’t acceptable today may become a part of our lives tomorrow. One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel lone, scared and confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try to cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further & further away and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward. You yearn for the simplest of joys of life & abhor the way that the world is moving towards crass commercialization.
You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lay in bed & wonder why you can’t meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better. Or even why is that whoever fits the bill of a life-partner is already engaged. Or maybe you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you know that you aren’t a bad as a person. Getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic.
You go through the same emotions and questions over and over and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision. You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for yourself…And while winning the race would be great, right now you’d just like to be a contender in this race!!!! What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it. And people are trying as hard as they can to figure this whole thing out.
But I suppose this is life…. as Dickens says in A Tale of Two Cities, “It was the best of times and it was the worst of times.”
~The Scars you acquire by exercising courage will never make u feel inferior~
